I really just cannot get along with my sister and if she is a bridesmaid I think I will die! But if I don't I know there will be a huge uproar, and it will ruin everything for sure.
Then my cousin will be a bridesmaid, but I don't want her sister to be a bridesmaid either What do I do?!?!?!? Chose who you're closest to and explain that to anyone who asks. I never understood why people think it's tradition to make you do something you don't want to for YOUR wedding.
I think they just pretend that it is what your suppose to do because they have no real reason to make you do it.
Stand by what you think is best for you. If you don't want someone in your bridal party just say no. If you think it will cause drama face it head on so people don't start talking behind your back and getting all worked up. Approach them and say this is what I'm doing, explain your reasoning and that should be it. Pick the people closest to you You'll be sharing your special moment with them.
Its perfectly fine to explain that you chose people you are close to. You shouldn't feel obligated to pick anyone you don't wish to. Look if everyone in your family knows how your sister and you get along then they will understand but if they don't then you will have to tell them. Nope don't think you should have to. But if you fight a lot she could either A Think you did that to spite her or B Not be surprised only you know how she would react -or even the rest of your family.
However you can have her participate in some way. Hopefully it wont lead to further tensions. I will tell you one thing as much as we try to avoid being the bad guy during planning there will be a time where you have to say "what is best for me" and stop trying to please everyone I don't think you have to have your sister in the wedding.
If you are not close with her then why would she even want to be in your wedding? You need to choose the people that mean Always A Brides Maid (Really Though) - Brother Twin - Karma & Chemicals most to you and are going to be there for you on the big day Best Wishes. I agree with everyone above. I chose 1 out several sis to stand up with me. I gave everyone else other prominent roles or readings, rehearsal speeches. Still the mom is not satisfied.
I would definitely go with your heart and what you feel is most comfortable for you. Even if my sis pretended to know me so well or appeared that way to the rest of the family members, I know in my heart how she has treated me and made me feel over the years. I can't in my heart condone it all by honoring her as a bm, ppl who I feel really close to, who get me, and have proven to me to be most supportive in crucial pts in my life.
I'm including my half sister as a bridesmaid even though we aren't close. I know she'd be crushed if she wasn't in the bridal party and our relationship isn't volatile - it just isn't close.
I at first had my sister as a BM my mom's choice not mine, tried to argue my point on it, but lost I then got in a huge fight with her and she stepped down as BM and long story short, pick you who you want, not what tradition says, this day is about you and not what your family says how it has.
I wouldn't of gotten in a fight with my sister. I think if you dont Always A Brides Maid (Really Though) - Brother Twin - Karma & Chemicals along with her then you shouldnt have her in your wedding.
Wow, that's rough! You should set aside your differences and put her in the wedding. Maybe it will help mend your relationship. In the long run you will regret not putting her in your wedding, when you are more mature. This one is a tough one. I have two sisters and didn't choose any one of them to be my bridesmaids or maids of honor.
I chose my bestfriend who has been my Bestfriend since high school, considering we are in our 30s that is a long time. Now, both of my sisters are boycotting my wedding, and caused alot of friction in our family. So what ever decision you make just make sure your looking at the big picture, if i could go back I simply wouldn't have had any bridesmaids.
I'm having this problem now. I have never felt close to my sister. I have always felt like my parents just see me as a monster compared to her just because I'm not bright and bubbly. But she's always wanted this 'best-friends-and-sisters' relationship that I don't think we'll ever get.
She even had me as one of her bridesmaids at her first wedding even though I had told her to not pick me. Now both her and my mom are extremely upset that I didn't pick her as one of mine. Even to the point where my mom has told me that this means I must hate her and wish for bad life for her. I've tried to explain but because my mom has always been close The Night Has A Thousand Eyes - The Stan Getz Quartet* - The Dolphin her sisters I don't think she can understand how I'm just not close to mine.
How do I tell her that I'm not trying to mean about it but that I just don't want her as a bridesmaid? Wow I didn't realize I was the only one having this problem. I have the same issue. When it is your wedding then you do what you want. People make your wedding about everyone but you when they try to obligate Theme From The Last Waltz - The Band - The Last Waltz to do something you don't want.
I will say I think Always A Brides Maid (Really Though) - Brother Twin - Karma & Chemicals is different when mom and dad are footing the bill, then they may have a bigger voice unfortunately F/i - On Off if you aren't close with your sister, cousin, in law, who ever or think they'll get on your nerves then you have a reason why.
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Same with me. I'm not close with my half sister, but I would feel Always A Brides Maid (Really Though) - Brother Twin - Karma & Chemicals to not have her as a bridesmaid. I probably would regret it. If you sister would make you upset, super stressed, etc. I have had a VERY rocky relationship with my sister, and in the past she has treated both me and my parents horribly.
We have come to a place that I am able to forgive her, but of course we are not still super close. I made two of my good friends maids of honor, and my sister is a bridesmaid. She took that really well and was very appreciative of even being in the bridal party. I guess it does mean a lot to people. She has even been pretty helpful and supportive.
But again, I know every person can be different and it depends on your relationship! All in all, you want a bridal party filled with people who are happy for you, cherish your relationship, and genuinely want to be there.
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